What have I learnt from my Princess? Everything. I live my life side by side with my furry baby – and she is an integral part of everything that I do – and yet after all these years I still learn from her everyday. Dogs can be the best teachers and the best teachers make learning painless and fun, heartwarming and always rewarding. All animals except man know that the principal business of life is to enjoy it, and dogs enjoy life the fullest.
I had no idea Princess would change my life, she taught me how to approach everyday with ‘gusto’, forget the bad, remember the good, and most important forgive mistakes – everyone of them every time. She thought me to concentrate on the rhythm of my heart and remove the wishing, the wondering and the worrying from my head. She helped me put things in perspective and give me a reason to keep going. Her love is unconditional for me.
With Princess by my side, taking those first steps towards a fulfilling life was no longer such a daunting prospect, she taught me to love myself. To Princess I was always beautiful and fun, always smart and strong. Her love was unwavering even when I didn’t feel deserving of it. In my darkest days, I hung on for no other reason than for the love of Princess.
I like to think God made Dogs so that we could escape our self absorbed lives. I’m still not sure if I rescued Princess or if Princess rescued me.
People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality and of their feelings. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a cell phone. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how you carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain. Life will break you, nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with it’s yearning. You have to love, You have to feel. Have a thick skin with a warm heart. Don’t be afraid to love again and to be loved again, and to tell someone how much you love them.
Being betrayed by the one you love is the worst feeling in the world. I think anyone who opened their heart enough to love without restraint and subsequently were devastated by loss knows that in that moment you are forever changed; a apart of you is no longer whole. Some will never again love with that level of abandon where life is perceived as innocent and the threat of loss seems implausible. Love and loss, therefore, are linked. Only after a person has their heart broken does the world appear as it truly is. The pain started years ago, but I’d lived with it for so long at that point that I’d accepted it as an inevitable part of me. I know that’s what people say– you’ll get over it. I’d say it, too. But I know it’s not true. Oh, youll be happy again, never fear. But you won’t forget. Every time you fall in love it will be because something in the man reminds you of him.When I fell in love; I remained the same person; I was before love. In fact I came to know who I am, when in love. But to my surprise, falling out of love was different. I was no more ‘Me’. I knew and I used to believe that you don’t make love; In fact its’ love that makes you. But love sometimes breaks you, and that too in the finest parts. Even if you try to gather those parts and make a ‘new of you’, it will always be ‘a new of you’ not ‘the same you’. so I don’t say I miss him or I miss my lost love but for sure I miss ‘Me’.I miss the person I used to be when in love.
The reality is you will grieve forever, you will not get over the loss or the betrayal of a loved one but you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same again. Nor should you be the same. Nor should you want to.
We always want things to stay the same. The same house, the same friends. Of course that’s not something that is going to happen. It’s one of those things people say. You can’t move on until you let go of your past. Letting go is the easy part, it’s the moving on that’s painful. So sometimes we fight it, trying to keep things the same. Things can’t stay the same though, at some point you just have to let it go. Move on. Because no matter how painful it is, it’s the only way we grow.
There is a phrase ‘ Don’t pet the lion’. We all have heard the warnings and we’ve ignored them. We push our luck. We roll the dice. We play with fire. It’s human nature when we’re been told not to touch something we usually do, even if we know better. Maybe because deep down we are just asking for trouble.
There are times in our lives when love does conquer all, exhaustion, sleep deprivation, anything. And then there are those times when it seems like love brings us nothing but pain. We are always looking for ways to ease the pain. Sometimes we ease the pain by making the best if what we have. Sometimes is by losing ourselves in the moment as and sometimes all we need to do to ease the pain is call a simple truce.